Growing up, my first seven years were shaped by the chaos of living with a drug-addicted, abusive father. His unpredictable behavior, anger, and addiction created a world where I had to be hyper-aware of my surroundings at all times. I learned early on that love could be conditional, that safety was never guaranteed, and that I had to suppress my needs to survive. These experiences didn’t just fade as I got older. They became the unconscious blueprint for how I viewed myself, relationships, and the world.

Without realizing it, I carried these unconscious beliefs into adulthood, making large, painful decisions that were not only isolating for me but also difficult for my family. I had an overwhelming need to run away—from relationships, jobs, and even locations. I changed careers, ended marriages, and moved eight times, always believing that the next place or person would finally bring me peace. But no matter where I went or who I was with, the same feelings of restlessness, unease, and the need to escape followed me.

Then, by the time I was 25 years old, my body broke down. I developed interstitial cystitis, a painful chronic illness that doctors couldn’t find a clear cause for. What I didn’t realize at the time was that my nervous system had been in survival mode for so long that it finally collapsed under the weight of stress. The unconscious patterns I had been living by weren’t just affecting my mind—they were destroying my physical health.

I spent years searching for a cure, going from doctor to doctor, trying every conventional treatment available. But the real breakthrough came when I turned to alternative treatments that addressed not just my physical symptoms but the deep-rooted emotional and psychological trauma that had been stored in my body. The healing journey was not just about my illness—it was about rewiring my unconscious mind and finally breaking free from the stress that had controlled my life for so long.

Sarah had been on a diet since she was 14. She had tried every weight loss program out there—calorie counting, keto, intermittent fasting, personal trainers, even medical weight loss programs.

Each time, she would lose weight for a while, only to find herself slipping back into old habits, gaining it all back (and more). It was like her body had an autopilot setting programmed for failure.

"I would be SO motivated," she told me. "I would meal prep, exercise, and do everything right. But the moment I hit a certain weight, something would snap. I would binge. I would stop caring. It was like something deep inside me refused to let me succeed."

🌟 What This Meditation Will Help You With:
✅ Strengthen the heart-brain connection for inner balance
✅ Release limiting subconscious beliefs with love
✅ Rewire your mind with empowering thoughts
✅ Use tapping to anchor new positive patterns
✅ Experience deep relaxation, clarity, and peace

The Consequences of These Stories

When we fail to recognize that our feelings originate from unconscious beliefs, we create more trauma in our lives. We blame our partner, leading to unnecessary arguments and breakups. We blame our career, which causes us to jump from job to job without true fulfillment. We isolate ourselves from family and friends, thinking they don’t understand us, when we are projecting our own unresolved emotions onto them.

This pattern can create attachment issues, loss of relationships, and a deep sense of isolation. All these changes can create even more trauma. Over time, we reinforce the belief that happiness is always just out of reach, leading to chronic dissatisfaction and emotional exhaustion.

Have you ever felt stuck in a loop of heartbreak, wondering why your relationships keep ending the same way? Do you find yourself drawn to partners who can't give you what you need, even when you promise yourself "this time will be different"?

The truth is, there might be an invisible script running in the background of your love life. Harvard researchers have uncovered fascinating evidence about how our deepest beliefs silently orchestrate our relationship choices - often without us even knowing it.

As an unconscious belief trauma coach, I have witnessed time and time again how Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) can bring about profound shifts in my clients' emotional and physical well-being. But now, groundbreaking research is validating what many EFT practitioners have intuitively known: EFT doesn’t just help people “feel better” emotionally—it actively rewires the brain and can significantly reduce chronic pain.

Powerful Unseen Forces: Projection and the Unconscious in Psychology

Psychology's often-overlooked satisfying aspects revolve around projection and the unconscious mind.

These mechanisms don't just influence human interaction; they shape human perception, affect relationship dynamics, and mold the mental health of those under their spell.

Grasping the basic elements of these (admittedly, not all straightforward) concepts can yield remarkable results in terms of both personal insight and improved social functioning.

What is Projection?

Hidden Chains: How Unconscious Beliefs Can Lead to Depression and Relationship Patterns

Struggling with depression and anxiety since childhood, I never understood why success, love, and financial stability couldn’t bring me peace. Growing up with a mentally ill single mother who worked two jobs, an abusive and absent father, and the weight of being a teenage mother, I fought my way to becoming a highly successful sales rep. I had money, my dream home, and a husband I loved—but still, I felt trapped in fear, anxiety, and self-sabotage.

I didn’t realize it at the time, but my unconscious childhood beliefs—messages like happiness isn’t safe, love always leads to pain, and I will be abandoned—were running my life. These deep-seated beliefs caused me to sabotage my own happiness, leading to two divorces from the same man and selling my dream home, all because my nervous system was wired for struggle.

Through my journey of becoming a counselor and discovering EFT Tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique), I finally understood how my mind had been creating my reality. By identifying and rewiring these limiting beliefs, I learned how to break free from the emotional loops that had kept me stuck.

If you’ve ever felt trapped in depression, anxiety, or toxic relationship cycles, it’s not your fault—your unconscious mind is simply following an old script. But the good news? You can change it.

Are Unconscious Beliefs Sabotaging Your Love Life?

Do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners, only to feel heartbroken when the connection fades? Or do you push away healthy relationships without understanding why love feels so out of reach? The answer may lie in your unconscious beliefs—deeply ingrained thought patterns formed in childhood that silently shape your romantic choices.

💔 The Chemistry of Unconscious Beliefs 💔
If you subconsciously believe "I don’t deserve love", you might be drawn to emotionally distant partners who reinforce that belief. On the other hand, genuine love may feel unsettling, triggering a need to push it away. These hidden patterns create relationship chaos, leaving you feeling frustrated, confused, and stuck in repetitive cycles.

The Hidden Puppet Master: How Childhood Emotions Steer Your Big Decisions

Have you ever made a big decision—whether in love, career, or life—only to later wonder, Why did I do that? The answer may not lie in logic or circumstance but in something much deeper: your childhood emotions.

From a young age, our experiences shape the way we perceive safety, love, success, and self-worth. Unresolved childhood emotions act as a hidden puppet master, pulling the strings behind our biggest life choices. If you grew up feeling unseen, you might chase validation in your career. If love felt unstable, you might push away or cling too tightly in relationships.