High achievers are often seen as unstoppable — driven, successful, and resilient. But behind the accolades and accomplishments, many silently carry deep emotional wounds rooted in childhood experiences and unconscious beliefs.

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High Deductibles Mean You’re Paying More Than You Think

Most insurance plans today have high deductibles — often $2,000 to $5,000 or more.
Here’s what that means:
✔ You pay full price for every session until your deductible is met.
✔ You’re locked into the provider’s insurance rate — usually higher than the therapist’s cash rate.
✔ By the time you meet your deductible, you’ve already spent more than if you’d paid cash from the start.

💡 Providers are legally bound — if you tell them you have insurance and they are contracted with that company, they cannot give you their cheaper cash pay rate. It is considered insurance fraud. You’re stuck paying the higher contracted rate.

In moments we didn’t feel safe, loved, or seen.

What we experienced in childhood — like parental infidelity, divorce, emotional neglect, bullying, or even subtle criticism — planted deep unconscious beliefs that still shape our relationships, self-worth, and decision-making.

The result? As adults, we silently operate from beliefs like:

• “I’m not good enough”

• “Love is unsafe”

• “I will be abandoned”

• “I need to be perfect to be accepted”

Why Mindset Work Isn’t Enough

We’ve been sold this idea that if we “just change our thoughts,” our lives will magically shift. And yes—our thoughts do matter. But real, lasting change runs much deeper.

The truth is, your nervous system and your unconscious identity decide what you allow into your life—not just your conscious thoughts.

You can repeat affirmations all day, but if your system doesn’t feel safe having the thing you want—whether it’s money, love, success, or peace—you’ll push it away without even realizing it.

How Perception Creates (or Blocks) Reality

Your brain is a prediction machine, filtering information based on past experiences, learned beliefs, and internal narratives. This is known as perceptual bias, where you selectively process information that aligns with your pre-existing worldview.

For example, if you hold the belief that "success takes decades of struggle," your mind will ignore or downplay stories of individuals who achieved rapid success. Even if such examples appear in front of you, your subconscious mind will rationalize them as "exceptions" or "lucky cases," reinforcing your old belief. In contrast, if you adopt the belief that "success can happen swiftly under the right conditions," your mind will begin recognizing new pathways, connections, and opportunities that align with that belief.

When struggling with anxiety and depression, most people turn to therapy, medication, or mindfulness practices first. But what if we told you that before diving into psychological interventions, it’s essential to clean up your biology? What you eat and drink has a direct impact on your brain chemistry, and the evidence linking diet, inflammation, and mental health is stronger than ever.

Growing up, my first seven years were shaped by the chaos of living with a drug-addicted, abusive father. His unpredictable behavior, anger, and addiction created a world where I had to be hyper-aware of my surroundings at all times. I learned early on that love could be conditional, that safety was never guaranteed, and that I had to suppress my needs to survive. These experiences didn’t just fade as I got older. They became the unconscious blueprint for how I viewed myself, relationships, and the world.

Without realizing it, I carried these unconscious beliefs into adulthood, making large, painful decisions that were not only isolating for me but also difficult for my family. I had an overwhelming need to run away—from relationships, jobs, and even locations. I changed careers, ended marriages, and moved eight times, always believing that the next place or person would finally bring me peace. But no matter where I went or who I was with, the same feelings of restlessness, unease, and the need to escape followed me.

Then, by the time I was 25 years old, my body broke down. I developed interstitial cystitis, a painful chronic illness that doctors couldn’t find a clear cause for. What I didn’t realize at the time was that my nervous system had been in survival mode for so long that it finally collapsed under the weight of stress. The unconscious patterns I had been living by weren’t just affecting my mind—they were destroying my physical health.

I spent years searching for a cure, going from doctor to doctor, trying every conventional treatment available. But the real breakthrough came when I turned to alternative treatments that addressed not just my physical symptoms but the deep-rooted emotional and psychological trauma that had been stored in my body. The healing journey was not just about my illness—it was about rewiring my unconscious mind and finally breaking free from the stress that had controlled my life for so long.